Jeers turn to Cheers for One NJ Couple

I must admit these guys are adorable. I hope they remain together. And I’m glad this situation turned out better than expected.

It was a clear, cool Friday night in Seaside Heights, New Jersey, and Theodore Vidal and his boyfriend, Colin Beyers, were walking back from their first prom together, holding hands in their navy blue matching tuxes and now-wrinkled pink bowties when they heard the raucous sounds of boys yelling ahead of them on the boardwalk.

They tensed and tightened their grips, preparing for the inevitable jeer, sharp insult, or crude joke that is usually lobbed at them in this part of town.
“It’s south Jersey. Guys pick on us for being gay a lot,” explained 17-year-old Vidal, a junior at Lacey High School. “It’s an area where you normally would get picked on and discriminated against.”

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Parents’ Perfect Response to Anti-Gay Graffiti on Their Garage

Lots of feels for these parents. 🙂

Waking up and finding a graffiti message spray-painted on the side of your home would make most of us feel angry, embarrassed, and even fearful.

But when it happened to the DeLong family late last month, they found a way to turn an act of criminal vandalism into something powerful and inspiring.

On the morning of July 30, Erin Kennedy DeLong was awakened by her 17-year-old daughter, Miranda, and Miranda’s friend. The two brought DeLong outside of the family’s house in Villas, New Jersey, to show her something shocking: Someone had painted the words “I’m Gay” in big black letters across the front of their garage.

“I was dumbfounded — I realized someone had committed a hate crime at my house,” DeLong tells Yahoo Parenting.

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New Jersey Judge Slaps Down Ex-Gay Group: Being Gay Is Not A ‘Mental Disorder’

As much as any religious group may hate us, you cannot make false claims, which most of these people do. Just glad there is someone to stop them.

A New Jersey judge has issued a preliminary ruling that the Jewish ex-gay group JONAH is in violation of the state’s Consumer Fraud Act (CFA) for the way it describes homosexuality and for its claims of success.

Judge Peter F. Bariso, Jr. issued a partial summary judgment against JONAH on two specific claims it had made when marketing its treatment. First, it is a violation of the CFA to market services that describe homosexuality as a “mental illness, disease, disorder, or equivalent thereof.” The court, he wrote, “now takes judicial notice of the general consensus in the mental health field that homosexuality is not a mental disorder, but is instead a normal variation of human sexuality,” and it would be a misrepresentation to suggest otherwise.

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Congressman: I ‘Do Not Construe Homosexual Rights as Human Rights’

Well, it’s certainly nice to know I’m not a human. :-/ Remind me to never go to New Jersey.

New Jersey Representative Christopher Smith is one of the GOP’s social conservative stalwarts, the perennial author of pro-life bills written to prevent any taxpayer money from ever funding an abortion. He’s a human rights campaigner; it was Smith who passed legislation that created a separate processing system for child migrants fleeing violence in Central America. Smith also chairs the House Foreign Affairs Africa, Global Health, Global Human Rights, and International Organizations Subcommittee, where on Jan. 27, at a hearing about crises in Nigeria, he informed the principal deputy assistant secretary in the State Department’s Bureau of African Affairs that he had a distinct definition of “human rights.”

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New Jersey LGBT Leader Heading Home to Run Oklahoma Group

Hopefully Mr Stevenson will have the same luck in OK as in NJ.

WASHINGTON — In a sign of the rapidly changing landscape for LGBT rights, the head of New Jersey’s LGBT group is heading home to run a similar group in the state of Oklahoma.

In an email to be sent to supporters Wednesday morning, Garden State Equality’s Troy Stevenson writes, “On Sunday, January 26, I will be stepping down as executive director of Garden State Equality to take over as the executive director of The Equality Network in my home state of Oklahoma.”

In a statement provided to BuzzFeed, Stevenson explained the move, announced a day after a federal judge in Oklahoma struck down the state’s amendment banning same-sex couples from marrying.

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Christie Vetoes Pro-LGBT Bill Allowing for Easier Birth Certificate Changes

Politicians are worse than women about changing their mind frequently and without thought. Of course after what has recently brought Governor Christie to the spotlight over the last few days, I have lost what little respect I had for the man. He’s either REALLY stupid, or a typical lying politician.

In what some LGBT advocates are calling a “vindictive move,” New Jersey Gov. Chris Christie vetoed legislation Monday that would allow for easier changes to gender markers on state birth certificates.

The legislation would have allowed transgender people to amend the gender marker on their birth certificate to be in accord with their gender identity and to match other vital documents, such as driver’s licenses and passports without having to undergo sex reassignment surgery.

“[Christie’s] veto of this legislation was a vindictive move to punish the LGBT community after a year of tremendous progress,” said Troy Stevenson, executive director of Garden State Equality, an LGBT rights group. “This was a simple bureaucratic change, which would have offered tremendous support to the transgender community, and have zero effect on anyone else.”

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Dayna Morales Suspended From Job

This story just won’t die.If this woman has a history of lying, perhaps she needs counseling. She is giving the LGBT community a bad name if she’s going to do something so despicable.

You can do a search of my blog and find previous stories related to this young woman.

The waitress who posted an image of “anti-gay” receipt, and who received thousands of dollars in donations because of it, has been suspended from her job in New Jersey pending an ongoing investigation.

Claims she made about donating the money to charity have also come into question.

The story of Dayna Morales, a gay waitress and former Marine, went viral last month after she posted an image of a purportedly homophobic receipt from a customer who refused to leave her a tip because of her “lifestyle.” The family who allegedly left the receipt later came out challenging Morales’ story, saying they not only gave a tip, but they also never wrote the note. They provided a credit card bill to prove they were charged a greater amount than Morales claimed and called her tale a hoax.

On Tuesday, the Asbury Park Press noted Morales has been suspended from her position at Gallop Asian Bistro in Bridgewater, N.J.

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Waitress/Marine Follow-up

Another follow-up to a previously posted story last week. Dayna Morales is paying it forward after receiving tips from around the world in response to her venting online about the homophobia she experienced at work.

An openly gay waitress and marine who was stiffed on a tip because of her “lifestyle” has received an outpouring of support from the public since her story went viral. Now, she wants to pay it forward.

Dayna Morales, a server at Gallop Asian Bistro in Bridgewater, N.J., made headlines last week when she posted her encounter with homophobia to the “Have A Gay Day” Facebook page. Instead of leaving a tip on a $93.55 bill, a family of diners ridiculed Morales and scrawled an anti-gay note on the receipt, that read: “I’m sorry but I cannot tip because I don’t agree with your lifestyle & how you live your life.”

She took to Facebook to air her grievances about such treatment, explaining, “I served in the Marines to keep ignorant people like them free.”

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Waitress And Marine, Denied Tip Because Of Her ‘Gay Lifestyle’

To be honest, this offends me moreso because Ms Morales is a Marine and after all they do for us, to be treated like nothing more than something on the bottom of her black boot is appalling. We don’t do enough for our returning veterans by a long shot. We welcome their willingness to take up arms in our name and fight for the causes we hold dear, but when they come home – injured or not – they get a slap in the face.

I’m going to step out on a limb and say that Ms Morales probably has short hair because of the military and/or personal choice. But what if it wasn’t? What if she was waitressing because she’s been recovering from cancer treatments and something like a part time job waiting tables was all she could handle? Last time I looked, people who get chimo lose their hair, and they don’t all rush out and buy a wig. OR, better yet, perhaps her best friend or a family member lost hair due to illness and she didn’t want that person to feel alone in their baldness so she shaved hers bare and its growing back now. There are a whole host of reasons why her hair is short and NONE of them are that family’s business. People like that disgust me.

A waitress in New Jersey who previously served in the Marines received an offensive note from a family who denied her a tip because of her “gay lifestyle.” Now, she is speaking out against those very people whose freedom she once defended.

Dayna Morales, a server at Gallop Asian Bistro in Bridgewater, N.J., wrote an email to gay-friendly blog “Have A Gay Day” about her recent experience with homophobia while serving a family of diners, reports Gay Star News. When Morales introduced herself to the couple and their two children, the mother was allegedly shocked by Morales’ short hair.

“Oh I thought you were gonna say your name is Dan,” she allegedly said. “You sure surprised us!”

At the end of the meal, Morales was left with no tip on the $93.55 bill. Instead, she found a note on the receipt, reading: “I’m sorry but I cannot tip because I don’t agree with your lifestyle & how you live your life.”

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