Inside the Unique Battle Between Two Moms for Custody of Their Kids

There’s not much to say in this sad tale. Mostly because I think the non-bio mother is going to lose in the end because she and her partner were never legally married. And of course divorce is always sad for the children.

Custody battles are always upsetting. But the case of Joy Phillips’ and Amber Berndt’s fight over their two daughters is an especially excruciating conundrum. That’s because the same-sex couple was never legally married, leaving the non-biological mother, Phillips, in limbo — struggling to secure her parental rights so that she can then defend them.

“This is a very important case,” American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) LGBT Project attorney Jay Kaplan tells Yahoo Parenting. The legal drama, currently unfolding in a Michigan court, is between the former couple, together for more than 13 years. They were married in a non-legal ceremony, wore wedding rings, and together raised their two daughters, now 10 and 7, who were given the legal last name of “Berndt-Phillips” before their moms split in Dec. 2014. “And we are going to see more of these cases in the future, because courts are going to have to deal with the effect of the Supreme Court’s marriage equality decision,” Kaplan adds. “Couples who didn’t get married because they couldn’t shouldn’t be denied the rights that same sex-married couples now have.”

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Another one I missed

Well I suppose when you don’t make a point to follow Hollywood news, then you don’t know the ins and outs of celebrity personal lives. That’s just never been appealing to me, but it is to my mother and her mother before her. At any rate, I had no idea that Jane Lynch is a Lesbian. It just never occurred to me to wonder about her personal life. So I was a bit surprised to learn yesterday that she’s divorcing her wife of only four years. It’s sad news, naturally, but I know that just like straight folk, gays and lesbians fall in and out of love. I just hate it when kid are involved and a bond formed between the new mom and one or more kids. I went through that with my first girl friend and it was heartbreaking. I mean it’s one thing that she left me, but I’d just gotten a handle on the idea that maybe I would’ve actually been a good mom when the chance was taken away. I hope the two women are able to remain amicable.