I’m sure Buzzfeed chose to conduct their investigation on Facebook because Facebook has been under fire for the whole debacle with Cambridge Analytica, but let’s be honest: Craig’s List still exists and I’m quite sure all this shit happens on that site, too. And a number of lesser known sites as well. Aside from that, though, what is worse is the climate we’ve created that’s causing these young men to put themselves in this situation. We’ve wiped out trade schools by pushing the need for a college degree in order to get ahead in life and now we have millions of people who can’t find work. We should work harder to change the country rather than bashing one company for what it allows or doesn’t allow on its site.
BuzzFeed News has uncovered dozens of ads on Facebook and other sites that reveal a new LGBT dimension to the housing crisis: young men lured into “sex for rent” contracts to avoid sleeping rough. In a multi-part investigation we expose the truth about these landlords, as young men speak out about being raped, beaten, drugged, infected with HIV and treated as domestic slaves.
It’s unbelievable that this kinda thing can happen.
Gardiner had just returned to Vancouver and was looking for a temporary place to stay while he looked for a new apartment.
He found a listing on Craigslist for a bed in a shared space with the condition that someone staying over was an extra $10 per night. He said okay, and let the renter know his boyfriend would be staying over.
“When I used the word boyfriend, that’s when everything turned south,” Gardiner told BuzzFeed Canada.
An interesting phenomenon, but I suppose as valid as any other label out there. I just find it ironic that on the one hand people completely shun labels, while making up new ones. Seems to me they just want to make their mark on the history of LGBT while not doing much of anything, really.
What is dude sex? And how is it different from gay sex? Let’s find out…
Tony Silva is a researcher at University of Oregon who recently did a study on the growing phenomenon and just published a paper called Bud-Sex: Constructing Normative Masculinity among Rural Straight Men That Have Sex With Men about it.
According to Silva, dude sex (or “bud-sex”) is when two guys, usually from a rural area and who identify as straight, hook up together in a discreet, NSA sort of way. They have wives. They have kids. They consider themselves to be heterosexual. But they’re also able to compartmentalize sex in a way that allows them to occasionally bump uglies with other guys without complicating anything.
Silver interviewed 19 white, rural, straight-identifying men who say they’ve had dude sex. He found most of them on the pages of Craigslist’s M4M casual encounter ads. All of the guys came from socially conservative and predominant white populations in Missouri, Illinois, Oregon, Washington, or Idaho, and most of them identified as either “exclusively” or “mostly straight,” with a few identifying as “straight but bi, but more straight.”