This Is What Dating Is Like When You’re LGBT And Disabled

It’s been a while now, but I’ve slept with a blind lesbian before. Nothing exotic or unnatural about it at all. She was quite good, actually. Lol I just don’t understand how people have this disconnect between their brain and mouth and don’t think before they speak.

Charlie Willis was dancing in a gay club with a man he had just met when the man tried to put his hands down Willis’s trousers. “‘What the hell are you doing?’ I said. And he said, ‘Can you even get an erection?’”

Willis, 24, laughs and then scoffs – a snort of derision. As a bisexual man with cerebral palsy – the cluster of neurologically induced movement disorders – Willis has developed a wealth of responses to crass ignorance. There was, for example, the man on Grindr who said, “You’re way too hot to be disabled.” To which Willis replied, “No, mate. I’m too hot to even talk to you.”

A few days before National Coming Out Day, he has invited BuzzFeed News to his flat in Brighton to discuss the routine idiocy he faces from strangers, dates and even partners.

Another man on Grindr sent the following message: “Oh my god, I’ve never slept with a bisexual person before! That must be really exotic!” Willis rolls his eyes. “I was like, What the hell?! There’s nothing about me or my identity that’s exotic! There’s nothing different about the way I sleep with people.”

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